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Hello, lovely readers, 

I come today with a topic that might not be everyone’s cup of tea…

Something that I have been playing around with for quite some time now. 

Have you ever met someone that you knew in your heart was meant to cross your path? Have you ever met someone exactly at the right time and place? Someone that comes in so unexpectedly but in the most perfect/imperfect way possible? But… with that, you also immediately realize that they are not meant to stay? 

In matters of the heart, there exists a space that lies between the defined lines of a relationship and the vast unknown of possibility. It is a zone where emotions intertwine and connections thrive in the delicate balance between love and circumstance.

“Situationships”, or as I like to call them: Love Affairs. (I stole that from someone on Twitter) but yes, I think they describe those connections far more effectively.

In a “Love Affair”, two souls find themselves entangled in a web of desire, curiosity, shared longing… while also knowing fully and completely that they are not meant to be together forever. It is a connection that defies conventional labels, existing in the liminal space where friendship meets romance.

We find our emotions in this world moving with the tides, drawing us in before gently releasing us to the waves of uncertainty. Which, in my personal opinion, is a wonderful technique to train our attachment styles. For this mindfulness cultivates a heightened sense of appreciation for the fleeting moments, enabling a deeper engagement with each experience while simultaneously allowing our hearts to peacefully bid goodbye to those beautiful transient encounters.

Now I’m aware of the downsides of situationships, I am aware of the toxicity they may envelop. However, I am not here to discuss situationships where one party is secretly praying for a different outcome than the other. I am here to talk about requited faith and trust between two individuals who are fully committed to adhering to their own set of principles. (Take Sheldon and Amy’s relationship contract as an example).

These connections, I believe, are opportunities for valuable relationships we might have dismissed as an act of justified “self-protection”. To avoid heartbreak and loss we in return deprive ourselves of true friendship and love, even if just for a limited amount of time.

With the right tools for clear communication, “total transparency” and mutual respect for one another, I believe we can allow ourselves the freedom of falling completely into the arms of one another, fully immersing ourselves in the magic of stolen moments, where chemistry ignites flames that burn brightly, however fleetingly. Where time seems to bend, and the world outside fades into insignificance as the focus narrows to the magnetic pull between two hearts and those two hearts only.

These connections also play a role in personal growth. With the recognition of the fragility of our time together, we can be more open, vulnerable, and honest with our emotions, desires and fears. This unfiltered authenticity fosters a deeper connection, allowing both parties to truly see and accept each other for who they are completely.

There is beauty in letting go… to have your heart flutter with bittersweet goodbyes once the time has come is an art that we should be honored to have fostered throughout. Not all breakups are ugly, not all heartbreaks are charged with agony. Some come as peaceful as a pond.

I’ll remind you of a quote I used here before, “and if you have to, if you absolutely have to- you can break my heart”.

It’s a choice, a brave one.

So, yes, as of today, I declare my full support of “healthy situationships”.

What about you?

Tell me!

XOXO,

Hopeless romantic FFB