Your Ego Is Not Your Amigo!

Hello, hello. Cool topic today.

Self-awareness, what a fascinating journey! My mantra for the past couple of weeks has been: more active, less reactive.

It happens, it has been happening, more than I’d like to admit. 

Funny beneficial story incoming:

A few months back, I was feeling hurt and abandoned by person A, but my stoopid stoopid ego prevented me from expressing any of it to them. A few weeks later person B contacts me, keep in mind, I have never cared about person B. (not in a horrible, harsh way; it just never happened). In that phone call, I got agitated and began yelling and shouting at them as if they’ve hurt me more than anyone ever had. As I’m doing this, as I am expressing my rage to person B, a voice in my head kept asking me what the hell is going on? Am I really this hurt over this? Wow… I had no idea I cared.

It was interesting, for a whole day I utterly believed that I do care, I just never knew it. Until… a light bulb turned on in my head… WATCH OUT. I CARE NOT. NOT AT PERSON B WAS I YELLING. HAZZAH! (again, what?) In my head, person A was the one receiving all those heated words. In my head, everything that I so desperately wanted to express to person A, came out to person B. 

Because, like I said, my mind was filling up and those emotions needed to come out one way or another. Poor person B. I did apologize, in case you’re wondering. 

Anyway… back to our topic. I want to talk about how our personal connections and relationships help in self-discovery. How in all their different forms, they act as portals, revealing aspects of ourselves that we may not have been aware of or that require our attention and understanding. Each relationship, be it romantic, familial or friendships, serves as a mirror, reflecting back to us the things we need to work through and offering valuable opportunities for self-awareness and personal development. 

When we engage in a connection, we often project our desires, fears, and unresolved issues onto others. Like I said, mirrors, reflecting back to us our own internal landscape. Our small mundane daily interactions can trigger emotional responses and patterns that reveal areas within ourselves that have been buried deep under the very bright/blinding crush on that one mafakin rock star. (I will marry him, you’ll see). 

And that’s what I mean by being mindful. To observe my own reactions and responses within my relationships. To try and gain valuable insights into my own weaknesses and areas of personal development. And to also not take things out on the wrong people.

My relationships (from now on… or a couple of weeks ago) act as a testing ground for my beliefs, values… boundaries. In these reflections, I can find my communication style, my ability to empathize, my capacity for vulnerability and much more. Through the highs and lows of these emotional journeys, I examine my patterns of behavior, my triggers and my emotional responses. This self-awareness allows us to make conscious choices, cultivate healthier relationships and hopefully foster personal growth.

In conclusion, relationships, with their inherent and transformative potential are remarkable portals for emotional intelligence. Also, I have come to believe that no relationship is a mistake, for each connection we encounter contributes to our journey of self-discovery and offers us valuable insights into ourselves. Every single person that we connect with serves a specific purpose to our personal development.  Additionally, (huh?) by mindfully navigating ourselves inside those connections, we not only evolve individually but also contribute to the growth and well-being of the collective. It’s also fun to include the other party in this process. 

Wait, not conclusion. It’s actually not just enjoyable; it’s quite beneficial too. You’d be getting a free-pass to take your time and space when needed. That is if the other person is understanding, of course. Choose your teammates, consider this a fun little activity. Share your insights with each other, help each other understand one another. Build better connections. Be more mindful. (insert sparkles here). 

And ya… Psychology. Whew. 

Peace out, lovelies, 

FFB